Start Your FREE Parent Pattern Quiz

Find out your typical, unconscious response pattern to stress is as a parent.

First of all, complete and submit all 10 answers. There is NO RIGHT OR WRONG answer - these are all completely human and protective reactions. Just choose the answer that describes your response best. Don't overthink it and trust your instant intuition.

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When your child has a meltdown or tantrum, what's your first reaction? *

I feel panic or anxiety rising in my chest

I get angry and want them to stop immediately

I feel overwhelmed and want to escape

I shut down emotionally and feel disconnected

When you think about your own childhood, you feel: *

Sad or angry about what you missed

Disconnected - I don't remember much

Mostly positive with some difficult memories

Mixed - some good times but also painful experiences

How do you typically respond when your child is upset or crying? *

I feel uncomfortable and try to make them stop quickly

I get frustrated because I don't know how to help

I feel sad but struggle to comfort them effectively

I feel nothing and have trouble connecting to their emotions

What's your biggest fear as a parent? *

That I'll raise a child who struggles like I did

That I'm not enough for my child

That I'll damage my child's emotional wellbeing

That I'll repeat my parents' mistakes

When you make a parenting mistake, what happens next? *

I minimize it and move on quickly

I get defensive and justify my actions

I spiral into guilt and shame for hours or days

I feel like a failure as a parent

Do you ever catch yourself saying things to your child that your parents said to you? *

Sometimes, but I try to catch myself

Yes, and it horrifies me every time

I'm not sure - I don't remember much of what my parents said

Rarely, but when I do, I feel terrible

When your child doesn't listen or follow instructions, you: *

Feel defeated and give up

Become very controlling to regain order

Feel anxious that you're not a good enough parent

Get angry and raise your voice

How do you handle affection and physical closeness with your child? *

I struggle with physical affection - it doesn't come naturally

It feels natural and easy

I want to be close but it feels awkward sometimes

I'm very uncomfortable with too much physical closeness

How was emotional expression handled in your childhood home? *

Emotions led to conflict or criticism

Big emotions were scary and had to be controlled

I don't remember much emotional expression

Emotions were ignored or dismissed

When you imagine your "ideal parent self", you: *

Feel hopeful but unsure how to get there

Feel like it's impossible given your background

Feel disconnected from that vision

Feel overwhelmed by how far you have to go